
"A life devoted to things is a dead life. a stump;

"He shall be like a tree planted

"The fruit of the righteous
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"For He shall give His angels charge over you, To keep you in all your ways. In their hands they shall bear you up, Lest you dash your foot against a stone. You shall tread upon the lion and the cobra, The young lion and the serpent you shall trample underfoot." (Psalm 91:11-13)
"For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ," (2 Corinthians 10:4-5)
"So Jesus answered and said to them, "Assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith and do not doubt, you will not only do what was done to the fig tree, but also if you say to this mountain, 'Be removed and be cast into the sea,' it will be done."
(Matthew 21:21)
"But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ." (1 Corinthians 15:57)
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Valentine’s Day is supposed to be the Day of Love. You’re supposed to be figuring out new and romantic ways to show the one you love just how much you love them. You’re supposed to be looking for that perfect gift that doesn’t come across as last minute and cliché. I, however, spent my Valentine’s Day this year at Charleston Breast Center. I remembered the doctor coming in after my ultrasound telling me that what they saw didn’t look good and she wanted to do a biopsy right then. I remembered looking at the clock and asking how long it would take and the doctor telling me about 1.5 – 2 hours.
I had to find someone to pick up my children from school. My mom was in Beaufort and my husband was at work. Then, right there on the table, I burst out into tears. Not because of the possibility of having breast cancer, but because of the possibility of not being able to take care of my children. Here I was sitting on an exam table faced with the dilemma that where I was and what I had to do was going to prevent me from providing a need for my children. It was MY responsibility that day to get them from school and I was not going to be able to do it.
Now, I know you may say that my health should’ve been my first priority, but as a mom, it never is. As a mom, I put the needs of my children before me, even as a sat on an exam table waiting to have a biopsy done. Don’t get me wrong, I had the biopsy done and I found someone to pick my children up from school. But the truth of the matter is that I was more worried about not being able to care for them than I was about the results from the biopsy. Well, two days later, I got a phone call from my doctor asking my husband and I to come in. When we get there, the doctor comes in, who is very straightforward, and says, “You have breast cancer!” Afterwards she apologized for 20 minutes.
Once it sank in and the crying was over, the doctor says to me, “What can I do for you now?” My answer to her was simple, “I need to know what the next step is, because I have to be able to sit my children down and tell them what’s going on and what the game plan is going to be!” I’ll deal with how I feel about it later. I need to make sure they are going to be ok and put things in place for them. Even through all of that, the needs of my children were greater than what I was currently having to process.
What is it that makes me put the concerns and needs of my children before my own? I would say that it was the way God designed me. As I go through chemotherapy and deal with the effects of breast cancer, one of the things that keep me going is the need to be able to care for my children as much as I physically can. I still have the desire to meet their needs. I still have the desire to be there for them physically, mentally, and spiritually.
I still have the desire to be their protector and go out and fight for them when they’re not able to fight for themselves. I am still their mom. So, I take care of me, so that I can take care of them. They are my gifts from God. They were assigned to me to love, care for, cherish, teach, discipline, and show them God in action. I take that job seriously; And I will do what I need to do to make sure that they are taken care for. The reward is unmeasurable.
I care for myself, because I have to be able to care for them.
Written by: Tilease Jenkins