Marriage Monday - No Comparing Allowed!

Let me start by saying two words.....

No Comparing Allowed!!!!

When it comes to marriage, no comparing is allowed.



NO COMPARING ALLOWED!!



Let me explain. You can't be like someone else's wife. And your husband cannot be like someone else's husband. Sometimes we tend to compare our marriages to other people's marriages. We tend to think that if we don't clean house or cook dinner like Susie Homemaker, then we are not doing a good job as a loving wife should. Or we see Susie Homemaker's husband buying her roses or sneaking hugs and kisses from her here and there, then we begin to think, "How come my husband doesn't buy me roses or hug and kisses me like Susie Homemaker's husband?"

Comparing yourself or your husband to someone else is not what marriage is about. Most importantly, it's not the recipe for a healthy marriage, but the beginning of an unhealthy one. Because when you begin to compare, the devil will begin to play with your thoughts and emotions, which will cause strife later on in your marriage.

Don't compare. Just be the wife God wants you to be to your husband. And pray that your husband will and can be the husband God wants him to be to you. It's easy to see what is right in everyone else's marriage and see what may seem like everything there is wrong in yours. My advice to that is to take the beam out of your eye and see all that is right and good in your marriage and seek God (along with your husband) on how you can improve areas within your marriage that needs improving.

The good always outweighs the bad. "You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you" (Philippians 4:13). And that includes maintaining a healthy, Christ-filled and fun relationship with your husband. With Christ's strength, you will be able to endure and persevere through the bad and hard (the not-so-fun) times.

Marriage is not a comparison. It's an investment. It's investing God, prayer, all the fruit of the spirit (love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control [Galatians 5:22-23]), time, energy and so much more. At times, marriage may seem like a lot of work, but it doesn't have to be. Let fun and work break even in your marriage.

I wish there was an ancient chinese secret to maintaining and keeping a perfect marriage, but there's not. The only thing I can say is keep God in your marriage and everybody and everything out. Even if your marriage is not where you want it to be right now, God will ,and the only one who can, give you a marriage that your heart desires. With God, nothing is impossible. And when it comes to God, there is no comparison. Amen and Amen.

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