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Let me start by saying two words..... No Comparing Allowed!!!! When it comes to marriage, no comparing is allowed. NO COMPARING ALLOWED!! Let me explain. You can't be like someone else's wife. And your husband cannot be like someone else's husband. Sometimes we tend to compare our marriages to other people's marriages. We tend to think that if we don't clean house or cook dinner like Susie Homemaker, then we are not doing a good job as a loving wife should. Or we see Susie Homemaker's husband buying her roses or sneaking hugs and kisses from her here and there, then we begin to think, "How come my husband doesn't buy me roses or hug and kisses me like Susie Homemaker's husband?" Comparing yourself or your husband to someone else is not what marriage is about. Most importantly, it's not the recipe for a healthy marriage, but the beginning of an unhealthy one. Because when you begin to compare, the devil will begin to play with your thoughts...

"I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may now kiss the bride." Then the crowd goes, "Aaah." After all that is said and done. It's time to live happily ever after. But there's a catch. There has to be a balance. Let me explain. The topic is "Marriage for Holiness or Happiness." My response is......It has to be both Holiness and Happiness. This is where everything must balance out. You can't have Happiness without Holiness. And you can't have Holiness without Happiness. According to the Webster's dictionary, Holiness means the quality of being holy, (sacred, having a divine quality, sanctified, consecrated, pure, clean) Now let's look at happiness. Happiness is the state of being of happy (fortunate, enjoying well-neing and contentment, pleasant, cheerful, lighthearted, joyous. When it's time to get married, I believe God doesn't want us to choose between happiness and holiness. He wants us to come into holy matrimony wit...